“A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah
I think today should be a sharing kind of day. I hope my experience manages to touch at least one fellow reader, friend, or Christian.
This song I believe many have come across ever since it was released last year by Hillsong United. Covered, sung, and loved by many, it is a beautiful interpretation that is dependent on the listener and their past experiences which shape the meaning of the song for them.
I am humble to say that last year, I have had my share of time in darkness. During those months, I did not know whether I would live on or not; whether the Lord decided it was time for me to leave. In those solitary moments I knew God to be present. But with the persistent and constant hurdles and struggles I faced, though it was a confusing and sad time, I believed and knew the Lord was there with me.
I would often wonder whether this was the best life I could have fulfilled before life itself was taken from me. Whether the ending could’ve been different if I had chosen a different university, made different choices, loved and befriended different people, done things differently. Living with regret often permeated me through those times. Regret of not loving enough, forgiving enough, hearing enough, listening enough, praising Him enough, believing in Him enough, serving Him enough, worshipping Him enough… the list was endless.
In the aspect of the professionals and friends and family, though it did not seem as if my outcome would be a positive one, the Lord showed them all that ultimately, the result of life and death was not a choice, it was an outcome decided only by our Lord. 10% of survival meant nothing for those whom had the utmost, boundless, faith in our Lord. We were comforted as in Isaiah 9:1 it is written:
Nevertheless, that time of darkness and despair will not go on forever.
Nothing is impossible for our Lord. He loves and cares for us. He truly does.
I have a friend who I love very dearly. I will always remember these few sentences in her testimony which I’ve come to love and be reminded by. She speaks of a time in her life when she did not know whether our Lord, the Heavenly Father, was true. She spoke of asking the Lord to save her from a tragic accident or from a huge illness, from which she would realize He was real and loved her very much. After what happened to me last year, though I knew before it happened, and especially after the incident, that the Lord was existent and loving, I am glad that my friend had managed to come to know the Lord in her own accord; without the occurrence of any accident or illness.
Often times we believe nothing bad will ever happen to us. Living in such fortunate and healthy conditions, the chance of being diagnosed with a chronic illness or contracting a deadly disease seems impossible. Life is often taken for granted, and it is only when we lose aspects of it such as food, shelter, the ability to speak, run, hear, are we repentant of the unconditional love the Lord has gave us and realize, nothing is forever. Only our love and faith for the Lord will guide us on.
Is there anything you feel is imperfect about you? Anything you wish you could change? To swap with someone else? Maybe it’s your green eyes with gold specks. Or those crimson swatches of freckles on your cheeks? What about those highly arched brows that seem to reach endlessly to the sky? Or those untameable curls you inherited from your dear grandmother? We all manage to find imperfections about ourself that we believe must be masked with make-up, perms,concealer, mascara; anything we can get our hands on.
But maybe sometimes we don’t have to try. Don’t have to hide or conceal. Don’t have to stand behind a cover we’ve created for ourselves.
When you’re by yourself, do you like you? For who you are? For what you stand for? For what you believe is to be right? For whom you love and care for? For what you strive for? For what you hope to attain one day?
“I love you.”
These eight letters, three words are used very intermittently in our society. However, do we really truly know what love means? What exactly is love? Can we really compress all our complex feelings into this word called “love”? When exactly is it that you notice that your feelings towards a certain person have escalated to this emotion we deem love? How can one who has never experienced “love” phrase all their feelings as “love”? All these questions are very hard to answer, but for most, these are questions that go through the mind at least once in a lifetime.
At times, it is very hard for people to differentiate their feelings of friendship from love.
At times, questions such as “Are we merely just really, really, really good friends?” and “Or is this what they call “love”?” dominate our minds.
Love ultimately has no single definition; it is certainly different for every person since every person is unique. But suddenly, one day you’ll realize, you want nothing more in this world than to be with that person. No one else fazes you like they do, no eye contact from anyone else takes you in that moment than theirs.
Every moment you live passes you by in an instant. Once you hit real life, it’s going to ramp up like never before. This is an important concept to grasp. Because dating in the “real world” is different than it is now.
One day, you may see a pretty girl at a coffee shop, in a class, at a bus stop, and your window suddenly becomes a lot smaller, the stakes a lot higher, and your chances a lot lower. Realization of life being a fleeting journey, and the possibility of ending up cold and alone, scares you out of your wits. Then you realize, the only thing that matters is if you enjoy the ride with somebody else, and you slowly begin to not care what anyone else thinks; the only thing that matters is if you make a great moment for yourself in front of her.
So you talk to the girl. You don’t try and “assess” her first, you don’t try and meet her through a mutual friend; No, you walk up to her, as a man and she as a woman, and you smile as you introduce yourself. And you see her for her, and all the wonderful things she represents, and you focus not on how you present yourself, but more on discovering the girl from the inside out, what she likes, who she is.
Because you’re never going to meet her again. Ever. You’ve got one chance to meet someone wonderful, and that’s it. More people will come and go, more chances will open up along the way, but none with her. You’ll move along the river while she stands on the never-ending shoreline. And every other pretty girl you see, everyone you meet, definitely has the potential to be someone truly perfectly special in your life. She could be someone so perfect for you, so wonderful and amazing that you’re never the same again.
Or she could not be. But the only way to know is to speak to her. If she’s just not that into you, you’re in the same position you were before, and you can look to the next pretty girl you see, smile, and introduce yourself. Because you have no “what ifs”, no “I should have had done (this) instead”, no re-do’s. Rejection is hard, but when you realize all that life has to offer, it’s not rejection, its just life. And that’s okay. Be you, live life to experience every moment, and find out who you are and what you’re really searching for. And if, in this moment, you want to go talk to a girl, walk up to her and do it. It takes a tremendous amount of courage, and it can be a waste of your time, but at least you’re a man, and at least you tried.
A very good friend of mine’s short piece. He’s a truly amazing writer.
Many of us tend to forget, but not hard to change.
On days when one may feel like the laziest person on Earth, not wanting to leave their couch potato haven, it’s the perfect time to hit the gym! I find that with exercising one feels brighter, happier, and maybe even more refreshed, like they just ran and won a marathon (literally). Sometimes scrolling through the news feed I see funny pictures of other friends’ dreaded visits to the gym ending in updates of “Wish I never set foot in that place!…”
True, working out and sweating may not be the most pleasant things to do (especially if compared with consuming delicious pasta carbs or exquisite dinners) but we’ve heard this mantra many times over and over again: exercise keeps you young and healthy.
An interesting read of a study done by a professor of pediatrics at the University of Hamilton in Ontario describes how exercising does indeed slow the growth of aging in mammals (yes, we are mammals).
I was never really a fan of exercising. Sure, getting to classes and commuting all required walking, which I thought was enough to fulfill the daily need of exercising, but now that I think back, we’re only young once; we ain’t getting any younger. Might as well use the full capability that our muscles and strength can withhold now, improve and build upon them so that when we do get older, we don’t have to cringe at the very sight of a flight of stairs (joke!).
Hope everyone’s having a blessed day, I truly wish you all the best.